As it is with running and playing music, so it is with our spiritual lives, which is why we have spiritual practice. The Kingdom of God, says Jesus, is as close to us as our own hand. By that, I think he means that the goodness and power and elegance of God is never absent from us. We are profoundly loved, completely understood and absolutely accepted by the great old wise one who called this universe into being and holds it there. What stops us realising this, and keeps us from living in the liberating knowledge of or God's complete love and acceptance and understanding is our own ignorance. The spiritual life is not about earning God's favour (what a ridiculous idea! what could we possibly give the one who has given us everything? What could increase the love which is already given to us in fullness? ) it is about getting rid of the obstacles which we have placed between ourselves and the truth. It is about metanoiete, renewing the way we think, so that the programming that we and others have placed in our brains can be undone, in order that we can live in the light of simple but gobsmackingly astounding truth Jesus came to share with us.
Which is what Lent is about. Forget your received images of mortification for the sake of earning brownie points with the old man in the sky. Think instead of having a wonderful gift, a gift you have been longing for all your life, and which you now hold in your hands. All that needs to be done is for you to unwrap it and enjoy what has been given to you. And the wrappings are your own odd little habits of thought, and your fears and the ways of thinking which your biology and family and culture and history have instilled in you. Of course you can't undo all that stuff in one hit: the task is too big and complex to allow that. But what you can do is take off one piece of wrapping at a time.
Of course your habits of thought are resistant to change. They are habits after all. To get rid of them you need to do things a different way, but usually, no matter how hard any of us try this, we simply cant. So what we need to do is practice. We need to do what we can until we are able to do what we can't. So in Lent we do some small thing which will strengthen our psychological and psychic muscles; something that will begin to form us in new habits of behaviour and thought; ones which will enable us to live more fully in the truth of our blessedness. Repeating this regularly is a good thing to do, and repeating it for a time long enough to instill it into your "normal" behaviour is important. 40 days is a good length of time.
You will have your own little list of restrictive habits. I have mine, and no, I'm not going to tell you, mind your own business. But amongst the small group of disciplines I have chosen are these: I'll blog every day and I'm going to try not to use plastic. Every time one of these tasks becomes onerous it will be a reminder to me of the truth Jesus came to share with me and the ignorance which keeps me from that truth. And at the end of 40 days I'm hoping that old habits will have been broken and through the resulting cracks the light will be shining a little more clearly: resurrection.